Hypnotherapy and Prince Harry
by Jenny Moxham
‘Keeping a stiff upper lip’, ‘bottling things up’ or ‘putting a brave face on it’ are all typical English ways of dealing with mental health issues such as grief, anxiety or stress. But, as Prince Harry has recently admitted, these are not the ideal ways to deal with the problems. He has revealed that it was not until his late 20s, some years after his mother’s death, that he processed the grief. He said that before seeking help, he had gone through two years of ‘total chaos’ and had come close to a ‘complete breakdown’.
In reports by the BBC, it was disclosed that Harry's brother, Prince William, had teamed up with pop star Lady Gaga to discuss mental health challenges – in a video call they highlighted the importance of people talking about their struggles.
Lady Gaga said: “There’s a lot of shame attached to mental illness, you feel like something’s wrong with you. In my life I go ‘look at all these beautiful, wonderful things that I have, I should be so happy’. But you can’t help it if in the morning when you wake up you are so tired, so sad, so full of anxiety and the shakes that you can barely think.”
Talking through problems like anxiety, depression, stress and other issues is what cognitive hypnotherapy is all about and this approach can help people deal with - and overcome - a wide spectrum of issues.
As a cognitive hypnotherapist, dealing with a person suffering from stress or anxiety, I would, through talking with the person, help assess the anxiety and identify its root - be it a situation, a physical issue, a past experience or a relationship.
I would then establish how the person would wish to feel, how they would like to be, and things that they would chose to do if their life was free of anxiety or other problems. I would then work with the person to reach that goal using a range of different techniques.
Prince Harry admitted to feeling nervous when he spoke openly about suffering from anxiety, coming close to a breakdown and being a ‘problem’ for much of his 20s. Sometimes facing the problem is the hardest step. Prince Harry is this country’s most high profile person yet to talk about his personal mental anguish.
I can talk through your problems with you and unlock the potential you have to break free of negative thought patterns, and to react more positively and more confidently to situations in your life that may have previously made you anxious.
Does Cognitive Hypnotherapy Work? Research Findings
In September 2015 a pilot study was published in the Mental Health Review Journal. It recorded that, using 118 cases measuring the effectiveness of Cognitive Hypnotherapy for the treatment of depression and anxiety, 71% considered themselves recovered after an average of 4 sessions. This compared to an average of 42% for other approaches using the same measures (like CBT).
The Mental Health Review Journal concluded, “Cognitive Hypnotherapy may offer a brief effective treatment for clients with clinically significant levels of anxiety and/or depression, widening client choice.”
Jenny Moxham BA (Hons), Dip C Hyp, NLPP, HPD, MNCH, QCHPA
I am a fully-qualified Cognitive Hypnotherapist & NLP Practitioner and a member of the National Council of Hypnotherapy. I was trained at Regents University, London by the leader in this field and pioneer of Cognitive Hypnotherapy, Trevor Silvester, with the Quest Institute.
How can I help?
As a cognitive hypnotherapist, I can help you make the changes you want in your life.
All of us get locked into beliefs, habits and patterns of behaviour which we come to realise are reducing the quality of our lives and yet somehow feel unable to change. In cognitive hypnotherapy we think of the unconscious as an area of the mind, separate from the conscious mind, which is capable of making decisions and producing its own behaviour. It is where problem patterns are stored and maintained. All of our problems have arisen because our unconscious mind seeks to protect us by keeping us away from situations that have brought about an unpleasant experience in the past. When a similar situation occurs, we are ‘emotionally hijacked’ by our unconscious mind, resulting in behaviour we often can’t control or explain.
If you think your mind is holding you back you from being the best you can be, whether it’s letting go of something (such as a behaviour, feeling or belief), sports performance, business or life choices, I can help you to get out of your own way. I can help you turn ambition to achievement.
I am passionate about helping people reach their full potential and feel good. I would like to help you to find your solutions to achieve your goals.
How to Survive the Exam Season
by Jenny Moxham
Stress, worry, tension, headaches, stomach pains, trouble sleeping, being irritable, losing interest in food or eating more than normal and seeming hopeless about the future?
All these symptoms can signal that it’s exam time and children - as well as their parents - may well be going through hell at the moment.
How can you help?
It is important that your child understands that feeling anxious is quite normal. Nervousness is a perfectly natural reaction to exams. The key is to put these nerves to positive use. If anxiety seems to be getting in the way rather than helping, it is a good idea to talk through with your child the real reason why they are nervous and perhaps practise the sort of activities they will be doing on the day of the exam. Help your child to confront and overcome their fears and see these activities through rather than escape or avoid them.
It is also a good idea for children to take breaks from studying from time to time, in order to continue doing the activities they enjoy which helps to clear their mind, interrupt the stress pattern and avoid revision overload.
Many children feel that most pressure at exam time comes from their family. Parents should take opportunities to listen to their children’s fears and reasons behind their nervousness, give support, avoid criticism and, before they go in for a test or exam, be reassuring and positive.
According to the NHS, some people in this situation feel much better once exams are over but it is not the case for everyone. A spokesman commented, “If your child's anxiety or low mood is severe, persists and interferes with their everyday life, it's a good idea to get some help."
Help is available through coaching and hypnotherapy before, during and after exams, which can help both students and parents.
How can hypnotherapy help?
Hypnotherapy is a very effective way of dealing with stress or anxiety and can draw on a variety of techniques including breathing control and visualisation.
The National Council for Hypnotherapy (NCH) says at least one in seven people suffers from stress or anxiety related issues daily the UK. After treatment for anxiety by a hypnotherapist, people may feel more confident and more relaxed in situations that were previously tough or challenging. Many people say that they are calmer and that they have more clarity of thought and able to make decisions more easily, which is crucial if studying or writing exams.
“Those who have experienced side effects of anxiety such as insomnia, prior to hypnotherapy, find that they are sleeping much better after seeing a therapist and, as a result, are able to work more effectively,” says the NCH. “It is as if hypnotherapy unlocks the potential you have to break free of negative thought patterns, and to react positively and confidently to situations that may have previously made you anxious.”
If you, your child or someone you know needs help for anxiety and stress please contact me.